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The Build... In Self-Esteem Pt1

Greeting Universe Friends,

Lets build together, let's break through a few things when we think of self-esteem!

The main thing to remember is that no matter who you are, where you have been, where you are going... At some point you and me have experienced lack of self-esteem, or the need to build up self-esteem... Or you know someone who knows someone!

Self esteem is your own personal view of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and, spiritually. Everyone has a different view of themselves, but keeping a positive outlook will benefit you more than a negative one. Many individuals suffer from low self esteem for a variety of reasons and need to build their self esteem in order to succeed in life. Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else. The same goes for self esteem. The only person who can build up—or consequentially tear down—your self esteem is you. Although other individuals may aide the process, the end decision is yours.

People have low esteem for a variety of reasons. Some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance. Others have emotional issues that have caused their self esteem to drop or feel themselves unworthy of any praise. For whatever reasons your self esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem. Think of self esteem like a house, if you build a stunning house on a poor foundation, the entire structure will crumble. However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is strong and capable of holding anything, the process may be slow, but your self esteem will be built soundly.

Many individuals look for help for their low self esteem in books or seminars. I am one of those people, at the time I didn't think that my self-esteem actually effected my life until it began effecting my life. The number of available options on the market is phenomenal, and you are sure to find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues. Even more so, you will find resources that support you to re-build or build upon your self-esteem.

Check out your local library or book store and explore their “self help” section for a book that you may find helpful. It is quite unlikely you will find the answers to all your problems in a book, but you may find it helpful to know others are in your same boat and you are certainly not alone. In my experience it was helpful to make a connection with others who faced similar challenges, but it also made me mindful to not over share as to not make another person feel bad about themselves.

In the re-building of self-esteem we can get to a place of comparison with others, when in essence the lesson to learn is that any amount of self-esteem, is very much an individual thing and should be focused on your personal well-being needs. Additionally, you may wish to seek professional help in your quest to boost your self esteem. Often, speaking with a qualified individual can help you determine the root of your challenge and the necessary path you should take for the rebuilding process. Perhaps your challenges date back to childhood, or maybe it has recently developed. Whatever the case, a professional will be able to help you best determine your next step.

A main factor in self esteem is negativity. Negative thoughts can pervade your confidence and crumble your self esteem. If you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to best remedy the difficulty. Often, individuals in a abusive relationship have their self esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth. Similarly, a negative workplace environment can lower your self esteem with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work. Maybe you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding him or her. It's funny that throughout my mid 20's to mid 30's this was very much part of my experiences in various areas of my life. It was during these years that I began to question my self-esteem! It was also the time in my life when I activated my listening skills, my dad would always say "listen twice" and my mentor said "we have two ears and one mouth for a reason" the more I observed in silence, the easier it became to inner-stand why my self-esteem had suffered.

Whatever the source, distancing yourself from the negativity will help you regain your self esteem. Strive to surround yourself with positive people. If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you may wish to join a support group. Similarly, there are support groups available for individuals with self-esteem issues. These groups will allow you to meet other individuals like yourself and provide a forum for you to sound your hopes and achievements.

However you choose to begin building your self esteem, do so today! Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware it may take a while. You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self esteem slipping. Remember, you are an important and worthy person and should treat yourself as such.

Hints and Tips:

  • Learn to Listen

  • Repeat affirmations every day

  • Learn to manage your emotions

  • Create Rituals

  • Try new things

  • Avoid making impulsive decisions

  • Learn to prioritize tasks

  • Have a self care day when you need it

  • Throw things away

Universe Friends, thank you for your time, thank you for engaging and more importantly thank you for being You.


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